Marriage is a bond that begins with many dreams. However, in Kerala, the tragic deaths of newlywed women due to dowry harassment continue to be a harsh reality. Marriage, which should be a time of joy and togetherness, is becoming a terrifying prospect for many young women. What is pushing them away from this institution?
Marriage is meant to be a union of two families, not a business transaction. Yet, even today, many households view daughters as a financial burden. The old notion of "If a girl is born, we must start saving money" still prevails. Instead of focusing on providing quality education and a bright future for their daughters, many parents worry about "How much dowry will be needed to secure a good groom?"
Many young women find themselves trapped in a system where, after marriage, they are expected to surrender their careers and independence. The fear of losing their freedom, along with the burden of adjusting to a family that views them as an outsider, makes them apprehensive about marriage itself.
Dowry is illegal under Indian law. According to IPC Section 304B, demanding or accepting dowry is a punishable offense. However, in Kerala, dowry-free marriages are still rare. Many people are unaware that dowry is a crime, while others knowingly ignore the law. Society must set an example by normalizing marriages without dowry. If marriage is a bond of love, its worth should never be measured in money!
Today's women strive for independence. They prioritize education, financial stability, and career growth. However, the expectation that they must submit to their husband's family after marriage often crushes their freedom. Many fear ending up in families where dowry is seen as a right, and wives are treated as commodities. A husband's family should not have the power to dictate a woman’s life. This is why many women are hesitant to marry!
The mindset that dowry is a matter of prestige must change. Marriage should never be a financial transaction. Strict legal actions must be enforced against those who demand dowry. Women should be empowered through education and career opportunities. Families must stop treating daughters as liabilities and instead support them in achieving their dreams. Dowry-free marriages should be encouraged and celebrated.
A man may pay a hefty sum to marry a woman, but if he cannot love and respect her, what is the value of that money?
Dowry is not a necessity—it is a social evil. If this practice continues, it will only lead to further oppression and tragedies for women. Marriage should be built on love and mutual respect, not on money and material wealth. Only when society shifts its mindset can we truly put an end to dowry harassment and the tragic deaths of young brides. Let the new generation embrace marriages based on equality, where love holds the highest value!